The Apple Tree
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree(s)
I believe we can only actually be what we saw as babes. You are HOW you are by 4. You are WHAT you are by 30.
If raised by people who always look on the bright side and to better themselves - so will the child, be.
Raised by dark people who squabble and to whom life 'happens' and, it's attention getting to moan - will raise moaners to whom life happens.
If a parent is always blaming others for their ''lot in life' and its shortfalls, the kids will learn to hold others accountable for their deficiencies and needs.
I think if a parent is supportive and encouraging, the child will be stronger, more confident, have more self-essteem and be encouraging and quick with a positive observation.
I think if the parent makes snyed comments about things or is prevalently cynical, they role-model this and the kids are likely to also see the negative in people and events.
A parent who is domineering will simultaneously raise a kid with doubt about their own worth and self-esteem but also, an eagerness to please, and finally, the ability to be domineering over their own dependents.
A parent who is permissive and tolerant will not prepare their children to take good care of others but to be self-indulgent and self centered, also, the children will grow up unable to create boundaries for themselves and others and further, will not develop resourcefulness or self-reliance.
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